Who do you hang with?

"Keep away from small people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great."
--Mark Twain

Monitoring who you spend your time with is as important as monitoring where your thoughts are.

What you focus on an the emotion behind it is what you bring to you.

How do you feel when someone belittles your ambitions?

How does it change your focus?

I'd guess it makes you feel not quite so good about your ambitions, and changes your focus to what's not quite right with your ambitions.

Have you ever heard that you should spend your time with people who are where you want to be?

I think the quote above speaks to that very clearly. If you spend your time with people who are abundant, and living a life of freedom and joy, they'll make you feel like you can live that life too. They will keep their eyes on the possibilities with you.

Sometimes, though, the people in your life may be the ones who belittle, and they are still important people in your life. They may be family. They may be life-long friends. What do you do then?

It's very simple. You get to choose who you share your ambitions (intentions/desires) with.

You can choose not to share those ambitions with them, so there is no opening for them to belittle.

Save your ambitions (intentions/desires) for those who will hold the vision with you.

Don't feel you have to eliminate these small people from your life completely. That's truly not necessary.

What is necessary is that you include more of those people who are living the life you dream of, and see your greatness.

Take some time to choose who you'll spend most of your time and energy with. Choose people that make you feel great. You deserve it!

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Velma Gallant is an Author, Speaker, Trainer and Abundance Coach. She's a co-author in a best-selling book series with Mark Victor Hansen, Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer called "Wake Up Live the Life you Love: Finding Personal Freedom". Velma is the creator of Living Abundant Joy where she interviewed 19 outrageously successful speakers, marketers and coaches on Abundance. She publishes a weekly e-newsletter called "Welcome Changes", which reaches over 45 countries around the world. Velma coaches entrepreneurs and business people to be abundantly successful in both business and life. You can visit Velma's website at http://www.WelcomeChanges.com, or reach her by email at velma@welcomechanges.com.

Don't Worry About Thinking Positive

You've been playing with Law of Attraction. You know that your thoughts create your experience. The only thing is, you've been experiencing some in-your-face challenges lately.

Likely your first thought is "think positive". You try hard to feel good about whatever it is that's bothering you, and it's pretty much impossible.

Don't worry about thinking positive. There is obviously a lot of emotion involved, and it's all OK.

Yes, the law of attraction does state that what you focus on and the emotion behind it is what you bring to you, but here's a little trick for ya.

You can focus on something that's a "vibrational match" to what you want.

What that really means is that your only job is to feel good. If it doesn't feel good to focus on this situation, find something else to put your attention on that does feel good.

Babystep your way to feeling good. What's one thing you can do to feel just a little bit better?

Have you ever noticed that when you or someone you know is stressed, they have the cleanest floor? For some reason, getting down there and scrubbing takes your mind off of whatever has got you uptight. You may not be right up there dancing, but you are feeling better. You've shifted from feeling bad to feeling neutral. A definitely movement up the emotional scale.

There's nothing wrong with keeping yourself busy to take your mind off of things. Your real job is to feel good. There's nothing in the "rule book" that says you have to force yourself to feel good about something you just don't feel good about right now.

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Velma Gallant is an Author, Speaker, Trainer and Abundance Coach. She's a co-author in a best-selling book series with Mark Victor Hansen, Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer called "Wake Up Live the Life you Love: Finding Personal Freedom". Velma is the creator of Living Abundant Joy where she interviewed 19 outrageously successful speakers, marketers and coaches on Abundance. She publishes a weekly e-newsletter called "Welcome Changes", which reaches over 45 countries around the world. Velma coaches entrepreneurs and business people to be abundantly successful in both business and life. You can visit Velma's website at http://www.WelcomeChanges.com, or reach her by email at velma@welcomechanges.com.

Hello...How are you? Have you been OK?

It's been a very long while since I posted here, and I've been missing this place!

The last six or so months have been very busy, but in truth, it's been a good busy.

We've had birthday celebrations for our whole family, Thanksgiving, Halloween, and Christmas since the last time I posted here.

I've been doing a lot of learning and exploring too.

Oh! And I have a new hobby as well! I've always been fascinated with Crystals, but never took more than a cursory look at the hobby. I've got quite a beautiful crystal collection now. I've taken a crystal workshop. I've begun looking at playing with crystal beads too.

At the end of January we finally were able to see the fertility doctor. We've been trying to add a second child to our family for well over two years. We're not getting any younger here, so we thought we'd check into getting some professional help. ;-)

I've been exploring a few new programs, and reading some really great books lately too. I'll put some "reviews" here in a bit.

OK...that's it for now. I better head back to the action steps I've outlined for today! I've already finished my meditation this morning, and I'm about 1/3 through my list. So doing pretty good!

Have an absolutely fantastic day. Hope you pop by again soon!

Warmly,

Velma

What the heck kind of lesson could that be teaching me?

Contrast can be VERY challenging. Though my experiences will not have been the same as yours, I can honestly say that I've looked at my experiences and wondered what the heck kind of lesson could that be teaching me?

What I have learned is that Contrast is there for a very important reason. By seeing very clearly what we don't want, we can also see very clearly what we do want. (Take your Don't want and give it a 180 degree twist, and you have a Do Want.)

The first step to creating what you want is to know what you want.

Get a piece of paper out, and fold it in half.

On one half, dump out all the crap...put every single thing down that you don't want that you've been having in your experience.

On the other half, do the 180 degree shift, and write out what you do want for every don't want on that list.

Rip it in half down the fold.

Get rid of the Don't Want half. Burn it. Rip it up. Whatever.

Keep the Do Want half. Put it up somewhere that you can read it often...every day preferrably.

Spend as much time looking at that list as you can. 17 seconds here. 17 seconds there.

If you notice yourself going back to focusing on the don't wants, you have a couple of options.

1. Keep yourself busy with things that occupy your mind.

2. Do another Dump and Flip.

Trust God, Spirit, the Universe (or whatever fits for you). And make sure you let him know exactly what it is you do want. He wants the best for you. All you have to do is ask.

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Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
Abundance Coach
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Simply Magnetic!

I am ... you are ... a magnet.

There are two properties to magnets. One is that the attract. The other is that they repel.

As your magnet increases in strength, you will notice that both properties of your magnetism will increase as well.

At first, it may freak you out. It may upset you.

I started noticing the dual properties first with my newsletter.

My newsletter list changed little. I had a large list. A few would come and a few would go. I wouldn't really notice.

Now, my list grows, and it's quite exciting. I have received wonderful communication from people on my newslist, and it feels really good!

On the same note, though, when someone is not a match for what I offer, they quite often go out with a "comment".

When it first started to happen, I was shocked - even hurt. I thought I was offering value! I didn't think the color purple would cause you to think negative thoughts. I love my butterfly!

Then I started noticing something else. Every single time I received one of those "negative" or repelling emails, something really awesome would happen. I would get a new client or student. I would get a truly warm email from a subscriber that would pick up my whole day.

I've now come to (in a weird way) enjoy getting those repelling emails.

I know that by this person leaving abruptly, the space has been opened to be filled with an equally and likely more attractive and joyful experience or connection.

Eventually, as your Abundance Magnet continues to grow in strength, you'll notice a new phase.

Your magnet will be so strong that those who are repelled by you don't get close enough for you to get the repelling emails or comments. And those who are attracted to you show up in ways that will astound you, and I doubt you will ever get used to it.

Enjoy the duality of your Abundance Magnet. Know that as you experience the repelling, you are attracting with incredible stength those people and experiences that bring you the joy you so richly deserve.

You ARE an Abundance Magnet.

Abundantly yours,

Velma Gallant
Abundance Coach
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I'm more than this!

"You will become as small as your controlling desire; as great as your dominant aspiration."

James Allen
1864-1912, Author of As A Man Thinketh

I grow proportionately to my dreams.

When I was a teen, my dreams were to be happily married, start a family, own a house and go on a tropical vacation.

I achieved that.

I'm more than that!

So how do I become more than that? I dream bigger!

Some of the things I dream about for me?

Living in Hawaii.

Being a guest on Oprah.

Travelling and meeting people all over the world.

I want to be all that I can be. I want to be an example to my son, so I can watch him be all he can be.

I want others to say, "Hey, if she can do it, so can I! I'm more than this!"

What are some of the Dreams you'd like for you?

If you could be anything, what would you be?

Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
Abundance Coach
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Do Anything

"I've always maintained that you can't just coast, if you do, you go backwards. It's just a slow way of liquidating...Let's do anything to get some action, you see?" - Walt Disney

Someone shared this quote with me today, and I loved it! So I decided to talk a bit more about it here.

For me it's the energy of remaining in motion.

I generally do not have expectations about what arises out of my actions, as quite often the energy created out of taking action opens doors that I don't necessarily see immediately.

For example, I have invited people to partner with me on a project only to be told No. Later, I would receive an invitation from this same person to partner on an incredibly exciting and door-opening project.

I no longer get disappointed when my actions do not create the "expected" result. As I continually move forward I learn more and more to watch for the exciting and unexpected results.

It's an adventure in motion!

Abundantly yours,

Velma Gallant
Abundance Coach
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